
PATHWAYS TO THRIVING
Removing the Mask
and Allowing Joy


DIG IN
Removing the Mask & Allowing Joy
How can embracing our authenticity and respecting the uniqueness of others provide us a sense of joy?
View and discuss the video together.
1.
Reflect
Take a few minutes to self-reflect on the video and questions
2.
Share
In groups of two or three, have a conversation about your reflection
3.
Discuss
Share your takeaways with the larger group
Reflection Questions
What does it mean to be authentic?
In what situations do you feel like you need to "wear a mask" to fit in? What would you need to feel comfortable in "removing the mask?"
Do you believe you are created with innate value? How does this impact the way you view yourself?
When you have a thought, a feeling or do something you don't like, do you respond to yourself with compassion or judgment?
Being our authentic selves can be challenging in a world that bombards us with messages on how we should act, who we should be, or what we even should care about.
It’s helpful to pause and reflect on the “curation behind the presentation”, but also identify our strengths, values, and beliefs, as well as role models who exemplify what it means to live authentically. Generate a few examples of people you know or admire from afar who live their authentic lives.
CLICK HERE to complete the Social Comparison Social Media Quiz.
After completing the quiz, reflect on the following questions:
What do you think about your results? Did anything surprise you in your answers?
Is social comparison a challenge for young people like you and your friends?
How does social comparison affect our ability to be authentic?
How might you change your social media habits (e.g., following or unfollowing certain accounts) to protect your well-being and live authentically?
CULTIVATE
What is our school culture around Removing the Mask & Allowing Joy?
Resources
Which videos speak to your school's strengths and areas for improvement? Make a note!
Dr. Brene Brown - Worthiness
Dr. Brené Brown's research has shown there is ultimately one obstacle to our sense of worthiness. “Shame is the barrier,” she teaches, “and building shame resilience is how we overcome it.”
What is the Value of Your Life?
Are you the one to place the value or is that power given over to someone or something that is outside you? Our lives are priceless and no one can say different. Each and every one of us is unique and special.
Every teenager NEEDS to hear this! (2020)
"Not caring about what people think will be the best choice you ever make. This is the message I really needed to hear throughout high school and college. You Are Enough Already."
Self-Love, be Intentional | Caitlyn Roux
What defines you as a person? How other people view you? What about your physical possessions and material achievements? In this video, Caitlyn Roux explains what it means to know and love ourselves.
Self Awareness
What is self awareness? How does it develop in us? Why is it important? What is the difference between self awareness and negative self-talk?
The Three Happiness Myths
This entertaining animation illustrates the 3 happiness myths that we have been lead to believe, involving our thoughts and feelings. Written and narrated by Dr Russ Harris.
Tools
Which tools would be useful to your school's students, parents, and staff? Take a note!
BRANCH OUT
How can we encourage the cultivation of Authenticity in our school?
Activities
Branching Out refers to the ways in which your REDgen chapter can reach beyond your group and throughout your school community.
Reflect on your notes from the resources, tools, and signposts above. What topics would be especially valuable to share in your school community? How do they relate to your chapter's unique mission and vision?
Create a plan to implement an event, promote messaging, or otherwise spread this month's theme in your school. Use the following cards as jumping off points.

Lunchtime Outreach
Are there some students at your school who have trouble finding somewhere to sit at lunch? Create more inclusivity in your school’s culture by designating a REDgen table in your cafeteria, a place safe for everyone to come and find friends at lunch. Have one or several REDgen members seated here each lunch period, eager to chat with anyone who wants to join. Invite friends who may not be a part of REDgen to join you here and enjoy building relationships with new people!

Passing Period Music
Talk to your administration about getting music played between classes, during lunch, or before/after school. Get a REDgen playlist together (or use ours!) and play songs based off of the monthly themes. Use Instagram polls to have your school vote on which songs to play. The possibilities are endless.

Stress Relief
Offer services for your school’s students to get some much needed stress relief, like sponsoring therapy dogs to walk through the building during exam week, organizing nature walks at a local park or nature preserve, or partnering with other clubs. For example, make crepes with the French Club, co-sponsor a 5k with your cross country team, or plan a movie night with the Film Club, and offer these opportunities to the whole school.

Staff Training
Part of the REDgen mission is to change school culture. One of the best ways to do this is to speak with staff (teachers, counselors, administration) directly and let them know how they can incorporate more REDgen principles in their interactions with students. Bring your group to a staff meeting and give a presentation on what REDgen is trying to accomplish and give some ideas on how they can participate. Become a part of everyday conversation for the adults in your building.

Video Sharing
Do you have any tech-savvy group members or a video class at your school willing to help record and edit some REDgen videos? Get your group together and record videos about the monthly themes, difficult situations and how to best react to them, tips for becoming more resilient, mindfulness sessions, and more. Share these videos with teachers to play for their classes, send them out in emails to your whole school, or get them in the parent newsletter on a regular basis.

In The News
Does your school have a newspaper? Take out an “ad” every issue and get out the monthly themes, meeting/event dates, quotes, advice, or other REDgen related information. Or, get a reporter to write an article about your group! You can also contact your local newspaper and get an article published for your whole community to see.

Daily Announcements
Get your REDgen group on the daily announcements. Share quotes, lessons from REDgen meetings, give advice, and more! It is also a great place to announce meetings and events your group is hosting. Try to stay consistent, showing up at regular intervals, and become a normal part of school culture.

On The Field
Join your school’s sports culture by including REDgen spirit days as a part of sports traditions. For example, have students wear red for a day of homecoming week. At the announcements before a sporting event, have a REDgen member make an appearance to share about the group’s work and how it relates to all areas in students’ lives, from the classroom to the field. Talk to your athletic director about meeting with all the sports coaches and integrating REDgen lessons into practices and games.

Community Posters
Get the word out about REDgen with visual reminders all over the building and across your community. Share meeting and event dates, stress tips, information related to the monthly themes, inspiring quotes, or thought provoking questions. Use free services like Canva to make creating these flyers super simple. Once you’re done, put them up around school and in local coffee shops or other community areas.

Social Media
Use your group’s REDgen Instagram account to engage your school’s students. Organize giveaways of REDgen merch (sweatshirts, water bottles, etc.), create a Stories campaign, put out polls, post about meeting/event dates, and post about Roots of Resilience. There is so much potential to be both informative and engaging while also growing your group’s reach.

Give Back
Finding purpose in the communities we are a part of is a component of Roots of Resilience. Organize your group for the benefit of your community by starting a service project, visiting a home for the elderly, or volunteering with another group at work in your area (such as a nature preserve, animal shelter, or food pantry). This is a great way to practice the components of REDgen beyond the walls of your school building!

Bringing It Home
Many schools send frequent parent newsletters with updates on what is happening in the building. Put together some materials to send home to parents about REDgen and why it is so important, like videos or infographics. Keep a regular section on the newsletter to be consistent with your messaging. Invite parents to your group’s events and encourage them to learn more about REDgen’s mission and incorporate it at home.

SIGNPOSTS
Do you feel like the world is over whenever you make a mistake or fail to meet personal goals?
Do you find yourself constantly criticizing your actions, performance or appearance?
Do you feel afraid to be yourself, express your needs or ideas?
Do you often second guess yourself or beat yourself up about something you did or said?
Do you struggle accepting yourself or feel uncomfortable with yourself?
Do you feel guilty experiencing joy and doing things you truly enjoy?
If you answered “yes” to one or more of the questions above,
remember and consider:
1. You are not alone!
There are many teens in your community that are also struggling or going through a difficult time, whether or not you know that they are in a similar position to you.
2. Your problems and feelings are valid and important.
No matter how big or small your problems and feelings seem to you or others, know that they are valid and important.
3. Help is out there!
Many teens have found it helpful to open up to a supportive figure, like a family member, friend, teacher, school counselor, school psychologist, therapist, coach, etc.
4. Please reach out to someone if you are having a difficult time.
Try talking to someone you trust already or who seems trustworthy.
If you are not comfortable talking to anyone around you, call/text a helpline where you can connect to support 24/7.
Always remember: You are important to many other people – more than you may know.
Mental Health Resources
- Hope Line: Text 741741
- Lifeline: 988
- COPE Services: 1-262-377-2673
- Trevor Project Lifeline: 1-866-488-7386 or Text START to 678-678
- Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860






















