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TOOLS TO CULTIVATE

Relationships

and Diffusing Anger

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Connecting

Activities to connect to one another

Affirming Boundaries

Dating Game

Rooting

Practices to ground ourselves

Responding to Anger

Tense and Release

DIG IN

Relationships & Diffusing Anger

How do relationships affect our mental health?
How can we set key boundaries?

View and discuss the video to consider the role of relationships in our lives.

Reflection Questions

Think of a relationship that gives you energy and one that drains you. What's the difference?

Thinking about the video, how do respect, trust, communication and boundaries impact our relationship?

Conflicts happen in all relationships. How do you approach conflict? What helps you to problem-solve and get out the other side?

What situations bring up feelings of anger?

  • Where in your body do you feel anger?
  • Can you regulate feelings of anger to prevent them from exploding into related actions and behaviors?
  • What can you do to diffuse your anger?

Discuss How Technology Shapes Our Relationships

Let’s brainstorm and list the ways technology might hurt our relationships. Now, let’s brainstorm and list how technology might help our relationships.

Next, let’s think about what we might change about our technology use to support our relationships.

Complete this Healthy Relationships Quiz and reflect on your answers.

What surprised you in this quiz?

Do you agree or disagree with your scores? Why?

How do these questions make you feel or thinking about your relationships differently?

CULTIVATE

What is our school culture around Relationships and Anger?

Resources

Which resources resonate with you? Which would be good guides for your peers?

The Social Brain

This video explores the concept that our brains are social organs designed to assess and inform us of potential threats or rewards in our social environments.

Healthy Relationships

What defines a healthy relationship? What are some warning signs of unhealthy relationships? What steps can we take to maintain our healthy relationships and avoid unhealthy ones?


What Makes A Relationship Healthy?

If and when you decide you want to be in a relationship with someone, it is important to understand the difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy relationship.

How Miscommunication Happens (And How To Avoid It)

Katherine Hampsten describes why miscommunication occurs so frequently, and how we can minimize frustration while expressing ourselves better.


Brené Brown on Blame

In this video, inspirational thinker Brené Brown considers why we blame others, how it sabotages our relationships, and why we desperately need to move beyond this toxic behavior.

The Upside of Anger

Dr. Ryan Martin is the chair of the Psychology Department at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay and a nationally known anger researcher. His work focuses on healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger, including how we express anger online.

Tools

Which tools would be useful to your school's students, parents, and staff? Take a note!

BRANCH OUT

How can we create a healthier environment around Relationships at our school?

MODULE RESOURCES

Flyers and resources are available to download and print!

Activities

Branching Out refers to the ways in which your REDgen chapter can reach beyond your group and throughout your school community.

Reflect on your notes from the resources, tools, and signposts above. What topics would be especially valuable to share in your school community? How do they relate to your chapter's unique mission and vision?

Create a plan to implement an event, promote messaging, or otherwise spread this month's theme in your school. Use the following cards as jumping off points.

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  • Nigerian Proverb

    "Hold a true friend with both hands."

    Nigerian Proverb
  • Ralph Waldo Emerson

    "Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not."

    Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • Ruthie Lindsey

    "If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it."

    Ruthie Lindsey

SIGNPOSTS

Signposts provide helpful information when we are at a crossroads and uncertain of where to go next.

DOWNLOAD SIGNPOSTS

The questions below can help determine if someone is at a crossroads within a Relationship.

If you answered “yes” to one or more of the questions above,
remember and consider:

1. You are not alone!

There are many teens in your community that are also struggling or going through a difficult time, whether or not you know that they are in a similar position to you.

2. Your problems and feelings are valid and important.

No matter how big or small your problems and feelings seem to you or others, know that they are valid and important.

3. Help is out there!

Many teens have found it helpful to open up to a supportive figure, like a family member, friend, teacher, school counselor, school psychologist, therapist, coach, etc.

4. Please reach out to someone if you are having a difficult time.

Try talking to someone you trust already or who seems trustworthy.

If you are not comfortable talking to anyone around you, call/text a helpline where you can connect to support 24/7.

Always remember: You are important to many other people – more than you may know.

Relationship Resources

ONELOVE Foundation
LOVE IS RESPECT

  • Call: 866-331-9474
  • Text LOVEIS to 22522

Understanding Adolescent Dating Violence
Hope Line: text 741741
Children’s Crisis Mobile Team: 414-257-7621

INSTAGRAM

SPOTIFY PLAYLIST

Need some peace & calm? Listen to some relaxing tunes.

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Required: Exit Survey

At the end of each module, prior to starting the next module, students must complete the Exit Survey from Boston College. Click the button below to access the survey.

TAKE THE SURVEY